You guys…Yesterday a bajillion things went wrong (yes! a bajillion!):
I dropped Stella’s (full) water dish in the middle of my kitchen floor.
I banged my head into the corner of a cabinet while I was putting away dishes.
I fell…and I mean a REAL GOOD fall…in the midst of the middle school lobby after my daughter’s basketball game, in front of about 50 people, ending up with a twisted ankle,bruised knee, pulled calf muscle and hurt wrist.
I dropped my 24 ounce water bottle (yes, full) on my bathroom floor as I was about to go to bed.
I stubbed my toe.
I was feeling incredibly sorry for myself. I may have even yelled to the heavens: “DAMMIT WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?!”
Ironic, no? Because, if you have ever worked with me, you know that one of my favorite phrases is “Not why is this happening to you, but how could this be happening FOR you?”
And yet…here I was, standing in my bedroom with a bruised knee and a sour attitude. I wanted to go get a glass of wine, turn on the TV, and skip my workout the following morning…because I could choose to do just that.
But life has a funny way of offering perspective…and while my job as a Coach is to offer perspective to others, sometimes I need a little reminder, too.
And I got it. You see, in December my friends’ 10-year-old son was diagnosed with cancer on his leg. I can guarantee that his knee hurts a hell of a lot more than mine. And he’s being a hell of a lot braver than me, too. He’s 10. I’m an adult (usually).
It took about 3 minutes of self-pity before I remembered. 3 minutes longer than I wish it would have taken. As I thought about him I realized that yes – I did indeed have a choice to make about how I wanted to show up in the world today. So I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and resolved to be grateful. This morning I got on my treadmill, and I ran. Because I wanted to, and because I could.
Perspective: It’s a love/hate thing for me. I love that it helps me, and I hate that I need it. But I’m human, so…I do. I don’t really want perspective in the face of someone else’s pain. But the reality is, the more grateful I am, the more strength I have to be a warrior for someone else’s much bigger battle.
This week, I’d love for you to remember to ask yourself “How is this happening for me?” and put life’s daily challenges into perspective. I bet you will feel better, and you may be able to help someone else, too.
And, hey…Our buddy starts chemo on Tuesday, so if you have a prayer or some massively good juju to spare, can you send it his way? You may not know who I’m talking about, but the universe does – Your love will surely get to the right place.
Interested in helping our buddy Ash-man out? Follow this link to his “Go Fund Me” page!
PS: I’m offering a free class this Wednesday, January 11th at 12pm PST: “Looking Back, Planning Forward” – Powerful questions to examine the year behind, and prioritize the year ahead! I’d love for you to join me, and forward to anyone that might be interested! The link to register is here.
PPS: If you’re a solo- or entrepreneur, and struggle to stay focused, on task and moving toward your goals, you may want to consider joining me for the next round of “The Success Strategy” – Find out more here, set up a consultation to find out more here, or if you’ve know you’re IN, pay and register here! We start on January 20th!
I can’t wait to see what YOU make of 2017!